Help! 17 Doctors later.

 Hi there.  Exposure- I gave oral sex on a man (pre-cum entered my mouth, but spit it out- however we were drinking. I do remember this.) We had sex but used a condom and he never ejaculated. Symptoms-  8 days later- upper back muscle pain (I do workout alot but this was different. Can you explain muscle pain w/ ARS? Is it isolated or all over? I noticed a white looking (pimple like whitehead on my vagina. (is this ars related) 3 weeks later- 2 more bumps on vagina. Went to Dr. He said they are pimples or in-grown hairs. (ars related?) 4-8 weeks later I felt a bit tired, under weather and got a sore throat approx 6 weeks post exposure. I noticed my arm pits were dry and flakey? Any concern there? I noticed a little ance looking spot on my chest too?  More back pain & a slight joint discomfort in my right hand. I would wake up hot once a night/ not sweaty. I felt like a itty bitty lump was in my throat for weeks to follow. Perhaps anxiety? I know I have had it BIG time since exposure. I looked in back of mouth where tonsils used to be and there was a small bubble (may have always been there?) I went to 3 Dr.'s one said it was a salivary gland, the other said remaining piece from tonsil removal and the other said it was a cyst. Any concern there? I woke up a couple times with my arm feeling like it was a sleep and had to shake it to return to normal. (any concern?) I went to Dr about lymph node that has been there for months. It is a little over 1cm on my neck. (should I be concerned?) 4 months later- my tognue is a bit white, threw up a couple times and pronounced taste buds. I have been a nervous wreck. I have been to 17 doctors concerning all these symptoms and may have just dismissed them if it wasn't for this exposure. I have had 3 cbc's, wbc's, STD tests, thyroid, etc. I am as healthy as can be according to all these tests. I took an HIV anti-body test at 30 days, 113 days and the last one a little over 4 months. They all came back negative!  I asked the guy to test, he said he did and that it came back negative. I asked to see them and he would not get them from Dr. He is in a new relationship now and we don't talk. I have read the blogs over and over and I see that 3 months is conclusive. Can I relax? Are these symptoms worrisome?  One last question, I take herbs to regulate my hormones & hypothyroidism  I drink alkalaine water everyday, have been going through severe anxiety and stress over this! Can any of those factors affect my results? I am an extremely healthy person. Please let me know if my 4.25 negative HIV test is  enough? I went to a very up to date lab, I assume they have most modern tests. Thank you SO much for your time.  I NEED a personal e-mail w/ your 411 on this PLEASE!