Hi expert,
I highly appreciate your knowledge and dedication, you helped people get rid of paranoid dilemma enormous times. Last week, I encountered a very "turn-off" experience that still keeps making me feel guilty and repentant. I went to an escorts service, but I was not aware that she was transgendered until we finished and she told me. ( I am used to avoiding touching ladies' genitals when using an escort service.)
Anyway, What I'm concerned with is my risk of HIV infection.(Let's assume she is HIV+, since I checked out the website where a client of her strongly claimed that she is HIV+. But, she persistently told me she is HIV-, and showed me her HIV result. However, I'm still very suspicous of her. The result was handwritten and signed by a doctor.) The sexual contacts during this encounter were as follows:
1. We did not have sex.
2. She performed protected oral sex on me, and also I did not notice any damage or failure on condom.
3. I licked her nipple for couple of times.
4. She spent most of time jerking off for me during this session.
5. I kissed on her lips less than 10 seconds, quite gentle not like french kiss. ( I know saliva does not transmit the virus). I did not notice any blood.
6. I touched her face with my penis for seconds, I'm quite concerned if the pimples on her face will carry any risk.
7** What makes my really paranoid is that I was on the top performing frottaged on her for about 10 seconds, that my penis might have rubbed somewhere closed to her vagina where I believe it is a risky area. Hopefully she had her underwear on during the session, but I can't remember if I have a condom on during this frottage.
Those were all of my sexual contacts with her, I was very worried if any vagina fluid on her underwear will put me into trouble in terms of the infection, assuming I wasn't wearing condom during frottage. I know all of my activities are actually quite safe, but I greatly need to be reassured by your professional knowledge and comments. Does this very unpleasant encounter carry any risk of HIV infection? Do I need to have a HIV testing for this experience only due to medical reason?
I highly appreciate you have read my odd experience. Thank you very much!!
Looking forward to your reply!
Hello and thank you for using the AIDS Vancouver Helpline. Hopefully the following information will assist:
First of all, your title suggested: "dangerous sexual contacts", but it is important to note that none of the sexual activities you described are considered high risk (or as you put it, dangerous). Activities such as unprotected vaginal or anal sex or sharing of needles are considered high risk.
Activites (such as frottage) are a "no risk" activity because HIV+ fluids have no direct access to your bloodstream. Using a condom always reduces risk level in any sexual activity (plus, you never know how far things go in the heat of passion), but in this case, condom or not, frottage is no risk.
You are correct in that saliva cannot pass the HIV virus and actually contains an enzyme that inhibits the virus.
The other experiences that you described, (touching her face and pimples with your penis, licking her breasts, kissing, protected oral sex, and masturbation) are all negligible/no risk activities for HIV transmission. This means that while we can "in theory" argue for HIV transmission, there has never been a single recorded case of HIV transmssion.
From this incident alone I would not recommend testing. However if you are still experiencing anxiety or have not had an HIV test recently you may choose to take this opportunity to do so.
As far as your suspicions of whether this person was HIV, here is some information that might give you a different prespective: whether one is HIV + or - is not determined by their occupation, ethnicity, gender or sexual orientation. Someone may tell you that they are HIV - but not know they are HIV +. Just like there could be a person who is HIV + but on anti retroviral treatment, who may be very unlikely to pass HIV to you, even in the case of unprotective insertive sex.
The best thing you can do is to be aware of yourself: for example, using a condom or engaging in no risk activities. (did you know that having unprotected sex is considered high risk, yet once you put a condom on, it becomes low risk?). Furthermore, if you are sexually active, perhaps getting regular testing for HIV as well as other STI's. This may possibly help to prevent stress or anxiety about what the other person's status and help you focus on what you can do to always protect yourself and stay aware of your sexual health status.
Hopefully this extra information helps.
In Health,
Julia and Jaz
AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer
p: (Mon-Fri 9-4pm ): (604) 696-4666
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